Cereal for Supper: Holiday Hype Team
Here we are! It’s Holiday Time! Like a NASCAR driver, the end of 2022 has zoomed around the tight left turn and is headed for the finish line.
Most of us are blinking at this season like a calf staring at a new gate, wondering how we’re going to get it all done, right? But remember – we got it all done last year, and for a lot of years before that. So, it’s not the getting it done that worries us.
What causes most of that holiday stress is trying to be “perfect.” We feel the need to do all the things, do them all just right, make everyone happy, and create a family scene that would make Norman Rockwell pick up a paintbrush. Well, I’m here to tell you that you can love on your family and be the super-parent you want to be, but it does NOT have to look like what some of us think it needs to look like.
Here’s what you need – your own Holiday Hype Team. I’ll be on it! The following are some things you need to hear and remember, and I hope you do.
1. The kids are going to have wonderful memories! Yes, they will. No matter the gifts, the number of holiday gatherings, or the perfection of the turkey, the excitement of the season is going to be what fires them up. I polled my three kids about their best holiday memory and didn’t specify the holiday. One mentioned a specific gift, one mentioned the “Thanksmas” that we have with one side of the family, and the third mentioned a movie marathon that we do on New Year’s Eve. We don’t know what’s going to mean the most to them. So just do what you do! Have fun and smile. The kids are going to take to heart the feelings that surround the activities. You can do that!
2. Oh my GOSH, quit looking at Hallmark movies, Instagram, and your neighbors’ front yards and then comparing ANYTHING you’re doing to that. Admire the good stuff and then move on and enjoy what you’ve done and what you’ve got. Because I’m telling you, what you’ve done and what you’ve got is the best! Yes it is. Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year’s, and etc. mostly need togetherness and laughter. Anything else is gravy. You can do togetherness and laughter, right?
3. You’re totally going to make it through all the busyness of this time of year. Yes, you are. If you have something extra going on in your life like illness or grief, then you just scale right back. But go see #2. Togetherness. Laughter. That’s the goal, so even if you can only manage less than a handful of extra activities this season, you have the secret sauce to success.
4. ENJOY your time too! Did you let them have cereal for supper? Yay! Hug your kids, and tell fabulously awful Dad jokes. Did you come screaming in on two wheels to the school’s Christmas show because you couldn’t get out of that meeting on time? High Five for getting there, girl! Did you tell yourself “it’s okay, it is done as much as it’s going to get done” and then feel good about that? I’m happy dancing over here! Just say the things to yourself that you’d say to a friend, and believe them.
As this year winds down, my most sincere wish is that you think all the nice things that lead to all the nice feelings. May your Thanksgiving time be rich with loving gratitude. And may all you Parents & Kids look forward to a December that is bubbly with happiness!