Character Notes: Intuition and Inner Wisdom of Small Children
When problems arise, kids have a unique ability to fill in the gaps. Even infants notice changes in a parent’s energy level and emotional state. Toddlers may have nightmares, lose some of the skills they have developed, such as toilet training, or even revert back to behaviors such as thumb-sucking. Elementary children might blame themselves for any problems, as they struggle with differences between fantasy and reality. It is important that we acknowledge that small children have a capacity for knowing and seeing things that many of us are not aware of.
Too often, as children grow up in our culture, the well-being that comes from a direct connection to their own inner wisdom is lost. Many times, this is due to our own lack of acknowledgement of our child’s abilities. I also think that some of the fault lies with our culture of constant stimulation. Televisions, computers, and other digital devices are used in all facets of life. Children are not given time to be intuitive or to assimilate and process information on their own.
As with any other childhood ability, intuition will fade when it is not recognized and nurtured. If a parent disapproves or dismisses a child’s feelings or experiences by saying things like, “Don’t make things up” or “Don’t be silly,” children become conditioned to suppress this inner knowledge.
So how should we strengthen our children’s inner wisdom? Listen to them. Allow the gifts they have brought with them into this world to unfold. In this culture, we have a tendency to mold our children to match an accepted norm. Society encourages us to “go with the program.” Often times this means going against the heart. Providing an atmosphere at home where intuition and inner wisdom are recognized and allowed to flourish, but also considered a normal part of life, is the best way.
When your child shares an intuitive experience with you, listen, encourage, treat the experience as valid, ask questions, and then thank them for sharing their feelings with you. As they grow into the teenage years, you will be glad you did.
About the Author: Sandra K. Evans, M.Ed. is a retired school counselor and instructor of psychology at Itawamba Community College and Bevill State Community College. Wife of 32 years to Jeffery Evans and mother of two boys, Justin and Jacob Evans. I enjoy reading, cooking, home decorating and NASCAR racing!