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Let It Go, Elsa: You Are Good Enough

Let It Go, Elsa: You Are Good Enough

You are not perfect, but you are good enough.

These words were shared with me by a long time college friend and social club sister, Leigh Ann Rieth. It’s what she tells herself when she thinks she’s “losing” at the whole parenting thing. And raising a blended family with six teenagers in it can make anyone feel that way sometimes! But those nine simple words are very profound. And in this hectic, nerve-unsettling, fun and crazy back-to-school time of year, Mamas everywhere need to here these words. YOU need to hear these words.

You are not perfect, but you are good enough.

Look, I get it. All sorts of outside influences have us thinking all sorts of nonsense. Lose weight. Don’t eat carbs. Do eat good carbs. Run a 27 minute 5K. By next month. Work outside the home. Work FROM home. Manage the house better. Plan the vacation. On half the budget. Don’t drink that coffee. Drink this coffee. Only drink tea. Closely manage the kids’ education. So they’ll score above a 30 on the ACT. In the 11th grade. Monitor all digital devices like an Apple Genius. Keep up with your email. And social media accounts. And volunteer work. Have you lost weight yet? Follow this diet. No, this other diet. NO, that diet over there.

Y’all. We are *this* close to snapping at times, yes? We see everyone’s highlight reels on social media and then stare at our own backstage mess and wonder why in the world we can’t get it right. And worse, we are losing the ability to relax. Really, really relax. And when Mama can’t be her kids’ port in the back-to-school storm, she sometimes feels the weight of that more than anyone. Yes, we have to let some stuff go. We can NOT follow every exercise trend, every diet, have our kids in every extra-curricular activity, give 100% to our families, church, work, and outside commitments while simultaneously having good hair. And skin.

You are not perfect, but you are good enough.

This is not a resounding battle cry for mediocrity. If you’re a perfectionist, and you want to get it done just right, then sister, go for it! But recognize your own stress limit before you hit burnout, and tell yourself that what you’ve done is good enough. If you’re dieting and you’re struggling to follow a restrictive diet while still cooking for small kids and a husband, then decide to lose the weight more slowly. Add back in some foods that will make your life less complicated and tell yourself that it’s good enough. If you’re the class mom and you need to organize the Christmas party and you’ve run out of time to get it done, call three other moms who will do one thing to help. It may not be done exactly the way you’d have done it, but it will be good enough. If you are headed back to work for the first time since your child was born and you’re not able to keep up with everything you used to manage, then just manage the most important things. Then as you get the new routines figured out, you’ll figure out how to work back in everything in a way that will be Good Enough.

You are not perfect, but you are good enough.

Mamas, we’re diff-er-ent. Our talents, interests, financial abilities – they are as varied as the types of grass in my yard. Don’t let social media get in your head! You know that person who cooks like a 5-star chef and Instagrams the pics? It’s okay! Give her an ‘atta girl’ and be happy for her. But don’t internalize it and then turn around and question the right-for-you sandwich supper you just served. Your family enjoyed it together and that’s good enough! In fact, that’s a great way to handle all manner of outside stress sources brought about by looking at social media. Be happy for the person who is posting, because they also might just be needingsome assurance that the life they are living is good enough. And if you ever get the chance to share these words with her, do so. Because we all need to remember them.

You are not perfect, but you are good enough.

 

Leah O’Gwynn Kackley, and her husband, Jason, live with their 3 kids in the Rez/Fannin area. When writing this, she wasn’t sure if she was the pot or the kettle, but has finally settled on the kettle so she won’t have to change her monogram. And she is very grateful to Leigh Ann for sharing these words of Mama Wisdom that she really needed to hear!

About The Author

Leah O'Gwynn Kackley

Leah O'Gwynn Kackley grew up in the Reservoir/Brandon and Jackson area. She holds a Mathematics degree from Mississippi University for Women where she was also a soloist with the dance department. Now, she lives with her husband, Jason, in the Rez/Fannin area and homeschools their busy kids. In her rare free time, she is also a photographer and owns Sanomo Photo, named for Sarah, Noah, and Molly - her favorite students ever. They all attend Grace Primitive Baptist Church.

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